I blocked my least favorite sister again. This time I had too. My patience was thin. I’m never close to my sister but I did feel sorry for her. This is the one I’ve always had trouble with. This is also the one with her son in prison. Lately for the past few months she has been going through depressive episodes. I totally understand but that doesn’t mean she can use her situation to manipulate me into helping her. I’ve always said no to whatever she asks. I have always been a listening ear but I had to say no to:
1). Borrowing money ( she never pays people back)
2). My niece staying with me twice a week for a few months ( that never pans out, she told my sister repeatedly she will move out but ended up staying with her for FREE for YEARS)
3). Using my address so my niece doesn’t have to switch school ( she currently lives with her dad but doesn’t want to switch schools because of her friends).
Now I said no to all of this because I don’t want to, and also my husband doesn’t want to. Immediately she responded that it’s sad that people who are family are willing to help her, but not her family. I immediately texted her the next time she gives me a sense of entitlement attitude me I will block her. I just blocked her. She obviously doesn’t see the errors in her ways. I’m just blocking her for a few months… maybe longer. My other sister has somewhat contact with her but she’s giving her crap too.
I’ll be honest. It’s been great not listening to her. Most of the stuff she has been “depressed” about are self inflicted things, or things that normal everyday people go through. I swear I think she has signs of narcissism or is a sociopath because she has always been like this.
Just to let you know my sales have dropped. It seems eBay finally passed the torch of glitches to me. I don’t I was listing considerably less, but I did try to keep it “busy” in a sense. Perhaps my June of not listing as much affected my sales as well. Let’s hope August picks up. Last year I think I did close to $2400 on eBay. This year I’m barely scraping by with $1200. Thank goodness my husband and I have been squirreling away as much savings. Though that’s savings has dropped because of lack of sales, having to replace my back windshield ( Some ass of a kid through a rock), remove a tree ( lightning destroyed my tree), and other car problems. I’m glad poshmark has been same for me. I think I did $400 as of now so that helped a lot.
I’m late in the game in commenting about eBay’s recent glitches. To be honest I haven’t been paying attention. My priority at this point is focusing more on my husband transitioning into his new position. This involves me doing more chores, some of his chores, and watching my son more.
Deciding to take a break (just not listing as much) was definitely the right choice for my family. If you just stumbled here, I will tell you a little more about my husband. My husband does suffer from anxiety. According to his therapist it’s mostly from him trying to suppress his ADD to get by. He doesn’t take pills which was agreed by his doctor. Recently he received a promotion in to management. He has never worked in a management position but has closely worked with his past bosses. Which did lead up to his promotion.
Of course as his wife and best friend, I already knew about his anxiety. I knew it was going to be an issue (it has) and this involved me just picking up the pieces when they fall. Overall we did hit some bumps along the way, but he is doing fine. I would go more on what I experienced but this is more about eBay lol.
I haven’t really been paying attention. Actually, my sales are a little up compared to last year ( if eBay is still accurate in calculating numbers). I did experience similar glitches. My photos went missing, my views were not showing, etc. I couldn’t even do a proper inventory. eBay isn’t my only selling platform so I wasn’t too sour about the glitches. Poshmark still has been making sales for me.
Do I think eBay will fix things? In my opinion, yes. This is just an opinion. I could be wrong. I don’t have some personal relationship with anybody there so bear with me. I think they are doing all this because summer is historically slow. They did lay off hundreds of people during this time which involves probably going through their investigations of making sure things will try to stay the same. Which of course ANY company knows that’s not always possible. It’s business unfortunately.
People assume eBay support the little seller but I know they won’t. I personally don’t think we won’t get a refund for all the glitches. The only time they have refunded on their own mistake is after they are sued and settled out of court ( dirty I know but that’s common).
Of course it puts me in a bad mood in all of this but I will still sell. I don’t really look at eBay as my own business anymore. I’m in a way still working for “the man” but in my own schedule with my own risks. Right now, before 4 quarter starts I am going to find better inventory, and list them. I will also focus on getting rid of dead inventory.
So I just want to post on some changes on eBay. Due to my account not tweaked to get their 10% off discount my overall fees have gone up. Fees in general can vary depending on your store type, and how much you sell. It would be a LLLOONNNGGGG AAASSSS post that goes in to detail on how much fees are but I’m not going to do that. I will just share my number as of now.
For eBay my fees caculated (not including shipping) is roughly 17%. This is probably because I made a bunch of low auction sales. Most people abide by the 15% rule of eBay fees but they are not taking to account that the lower per item sale, you pay more fees. Losing my 10% off discount pushed my average of 13% fees to now overall of 17% fees. Starting to really come close to the standard 20% fee for poshmark ( don’t forget the $2.95 flat fee they take for sales $15 and below). I hope some resellers who come across this post double check their fees taken out if they are on eBay. Of course the increase in fees ( by losing my 10% off) puts a bad taste in my mouth. Yet it is still a platform I’m able to bring income to my family.
It’s the “summer slow down” for most resellers. I don’t know why other resellers are saying it’s not when in reality it probably is. I mean it looks like they are working harder than before but making the same amount of money if it was any other season. So it’s really discouraging for new sellers or ones whose inventory isn’t geared toward summer.
My inventory in general isn’t geared toward summer. I mainly and I mean probably 95% of my inventory is clothing. Unfortunately a small percentage of it is geared towards summer so sales have slowed down for me. It’s really my fault for not being prepared but what can I say? Summer clothing isn’t something I live to find in thrift stores. It’s usually cheap( I mean material wise, not price wise) and thrift stores around me typically overcharge on swim swear.
This year I’m really not too worried. I haven’t mentioned this before but my husband got a promotion. This came with a nice raise so this summer I’m not too worried about hitting my goal. Now I’m focusing on streamlining my inventory by sending things that aren’t selling to thred up. I do donate too. It’s a nice little break I’ll be taking but I will be using it to better my inventory and learn more about other brands. The summer slow down for me is a great time to set some goals that will help me grow.
I’m currently dealing with an eBay customer that wants to return a dress. Now I said it before that I don’t mind returns. I just don’t like it when a customer files an Item not as described. Though that wasn’t the problem. This customer said she took off the tags in the customer comments and wants to return because it’s too hot for her because of her cancer medication. I already hated she had to throw in the fact she has cancer. I mean really? I know she’s probably lying and if she’s not, why would you return an item without the tags attached? I can’t sell the item for the best price I can get. eBay said I have to accept the return and to call them. I will call them of course if she sends it back. Overall I have other shit to worry about. If eBay won’t compensate me for this I will have to let it go and just block this person.
Poshmark has been uneventful for me. I mean I get sales but I’m definitely loving the laid back feel of poshmark. For example to keep my ambassador status I need to have a feedback score greater than 4.5. I currently have 4.9 and this is when I already have 5 4 stars, and 2 1 stars. Glad no one sees my score and nobody hasn’t left me shitty messages so I’m not worried about that. Unfortunately Poshmark is not my main earner but I am loving the sales because it makes up for eBay’s slow sales.
Overall yes my sales have been slower. I expected this but hey, I’m still able to pay my bills, and pay down my student loan. I haven’t done my bookkeeping yet but it looks similar to last month.
Yes I’m being a bit of a show off and showing my sales from March 6 -11th. I was on vacation so any sales made was a GREAT thing since I had to put both stores on vacation mode. If you are wondering about vacation mode then keep on reading. I won’t go over every detail but just my brief experience.
During the time my store was on vacation mode I was only able to make sales on eBay. You see putting your “closet” on vacation mode at poshmark will show all your listing as “NOT FOR SALE” and some little blurb stating your vacation days. Poshmark automatically turns your store back on at the end of the stated vacation day. This is important to know if you are deciding which days to turn your “closet” back on. You do have the convenience to do it on your phone ( eBay APP does not let you turn vacation on/off, only on the desktop version).
On eBay you have the option to turn vacation mode on, AND have your listings able to be sold. You can also just have your whole store hidden ( I think it might be different if you had auctions, though don’t rely on me for that). Since I was gone for less than a week, my ebay store was in vacation mode and my listings are able to be purchased. It’s just my preference. You can go longer but some customers are so computer illiterate and impatient that explaining to them your current terms aggravates them *Yes eye roll*.
Overall of course my sales went down but I still made a couple hundred dollars in sales between those days. I was able to turn my poshmark closet on , on the weekend so I still got a few sales in there. Some of my sales were small sales but those items I don’t mind letting go low enough to make my money back. After all I’m still learning about clothing and that is an industry that’s forever changing.