Category Archives: Thrift Finds

Family Drama: When Someone Wants Your Address

I blocked my least favorite sister again. This time I had too. My patience was thin. I’m never close to my sister but I did feel sorry for her. This is the one I’ve always had trouble with. This is also the one with her son in prison. Lately for the past few months she has been going through depressive episodes. I totally understand but that doesn’t mean she can use her situation to manipulate me into helping her. I’ve always said no to whatever she asks. I have always been a listening ear but I had to say no to:

1). Borrowing money ( she never pays people back)

2). My niece staying with me twice a week for a few months ( that never pans out, she told my sister repeatedly she will move out but ended up staying with her for FREE for YEARS)

3). Using my address so my niece doesn’t have to switch school ( she currently lives with her dad but doesn’t want to switch schools because of her friends).

Now I said no to all of this because I don’t want to, and also my husband doesn’t want to. Immediately she responded that it’s sad that people who are family are willing to help her, but not her family. I immediately texted her the next time she gives me a sense of entitlement attitude me I will block her. I just blocked her. She obviously doesn’t see the errors in her ways. I’m just blocking her for a few months… maybe longer. My other sister has somewhat contact with her but she’s giving her crap too.

I’ll be honest. It’s been great not listening to her. Most of the stuff she has been “depressed” about are self inflicted things, or things that normal everyday people go through. I swear I think she has signs of narcissism or is a sociopath because she has always been like this.

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Less Donations

Our bi-monthly veterans ( I think it’s bi-monthly) of America donation truck is coming in a few weeks. I only have a couple of bags prepped. I will have to go through my eBay room and decide what needs to be donated. The last few times we donated at least a dozen of boxes and bags of clothing. Most of it from unsold inventory and some from our personal belongings.

I know I have maxed out the charity donation limit you can do for taxes before they want you to start itemizing. That exact number I’m not sure but I do have enough slips to claim the max. It’s really hard to pin point how much we donated so when I see how many boxes and bags of stuff we donated, it’s almost embarrassing frugally.

Did we really BUY that much stuff we rarely used over the years? Even though we live conservatively, our home is still filled with stuff we have barely used. I would have to say many of it is hand me downs from family. So getting my husband to donate stuff that was passed down can be scary for him. Still we do not need so many bed spreads, books, clothing for eBay, and unused cookware.

I’m glad I am only donating a few eBay filled clothing bags. This means I’m buying less damage goods. When I shopped at the bins I came home with so much stuff but in the end I always end up re-donating at least 20% of what I buy. I stopped going to the bins because they raise the price per pound and they stopped wheeling out so much clothes. This forced me to really watch out for sales at the thrift stores, and to be selective on what to buy.

Happy Thanksgiving!

I know I am a bit early on wishing people a happy thanksgiving. It’s because I know I won’t be able to post for a while. I’ve just been so busy. The past few weeks it was Halloween , my FIL visited, and my 4 year wedding anniversary. Yes have been busy with family.

This year my family (siblings and their family) won’t be celebrating the holidays together. There is just too much going on this year. Now before you assume we should just bite the bullet and celebrate together, the drama is very serious. Calling it drama even sounds insulting to the people involved. It’s a little hard to talk about and I have stressed about it on my blog every now and then.

So I hope all of you who have come across this post to have a good holiday. I’m such an introvert that I’m looking just just celebrate with ordering food and just meeting people I haven’t seen in a while. You can also catch me on instagram about my reseller life.

Family Visiting

My father in law is visiting us near my husband’s birthday which is Halloween. It’s been a really long time since he visited.  Actually the last time he visited was when Calvin was born but I didn’t get to go home. I didn’t get to spend  very much time with him but at least he and my husband spent some time together.

He doesn’t visit often because he feels he is intruding. Which is weird for him to say because we love visiting him. So I am a little nervous because right now I’m trying to clean my house and fix up the guest room for him. I am looking forward to his visit but I hate to admit it’s like I want him to be please with our lifestyle. The Martha Stewart in me has been on vacation… forever. Ok the Martha Stewart in me is still in training and isn’t graduating in home making anytime soon.

I think I would faint of embarrassment if he ever  EVER walks in to my eBay room. It’s not organized or categorized.

Blah Kind Of Day

Today is Saturday. Usually on this day I’m pretty busy. Listing, shipping, cleaning, watching Calvin, and planning what to make for dinner for the whole week. I’m in a blah kind of mood so I decide to just take a break from everything but taking care of my Son and dinner.  The mess will be here tomorrow still and my eBay store is still up and running.

Do you have one of those days? Most days I just charge on even if I am tired but today I’m just tired. I feel it in my bones I need to rest. I feel fortunate that this is a luxury I can do. Technically I’m still busy doing mommy duties but that’s a duty I don’t turn off ever even if I am sick.

Pound Store

Hello everyone. It’s 9pm and I have about 6 more items to list and 3 items to prep to ship. I’m tired but I’m determined to do all this plus finish chores and plan my next day out. I just want to tell you how my trip to the pound store early morning Thursday went.

My last post was about going to the pound store. I wanted to go to the pound store when they open out of curiosity if it will be better. Last time I went around 9:15am right after I made sure my son was fed and played a little. It was busy for sure and while I did leave with 50 lbs of items , I felt I could do better if I go when they open around 7am. IT WAS SOOOOO MUCH BETTER.

I have to admit waking up at 6am was a little weird for me to go to the pound store. My husband and son were asleep in the cozy bed. It made it hard to get up. I did though and I’m glad. There was close parking, and I was able to get a cart that was in decent shape. Probably less than 10 people were there already and we had a bin to ourselves. Nice not to have people shoving themselves in front of me or worrying if someone is picking through my cart. When they replenish the bins it wasn’t mayhem either! Around 9:00am is when it started to get crazy. I’m assuming people were dropping off their kids by then and they head straight there. That’s ok because by 10am I left with close to 80 pieces of clothing. I came home with most of them in good condition with only having to trash 5 pieces.

I’m sorry I don’t have time to post what items I came home with but I came home with brands such as Tommy Bahama, Lucky Brand, A North Face Fleece Sweater, Ralph Lauren, Torrid, Lane Bryant, Some Denim Jeans by various brands, and some baby clothes for my son.

 

Goodwill Clearance Pound Store

Last week I went to the nearby Goodwill Clearance center AKA “Pound Store” among resellers. It’s been over probably two years since I went and I’m planning to go again this week. Changes made to my location now is that they now roll out more clothing bins as oppose to hard goods. Now they are also open 7am. I am going to go in bright and early tomorrow. Wish me luck Y’all.

Shopping at the pound store is definitely stressful. If you are more of the organize shopper then no this place is not for you. I stopped years ago because I found better stuff at my local goodwill stores on dollar days. Now though since I am trying to streamline my eBay business I’m changing the way I shop. Since I can’t just go shopping when I want to ( I don’t like to take my son to the thrift store) I settled on shopping at this place again because I am on a budget plus I can go on my husband’s day off.

Last week I did leave with 50lbs of things for about  $40.00. The most I’ve ever carried out of that store. I was able to go home with brands such as Leatherocks, Alfani, Ralph Lauren, etc. I hope I sell some of them soon. eBay has been pretty slow for March for me.