Well this is a first for me. I just received my first letter from a state prison. My nephew wrote me a letter finally. I wrote to him the first week of May. He was still being processed from jail to prison. From what he tells me he is still in the “fish tank”. Which he will be for a while until he is officially processed.
I was so relieved and happy to hear from me. Of course I cried when I read it on some parts. This is the first time anyone in my side family has been to prison. He will be there for a couple of years until parole. He hasn’t been there long but I can easily tell you one thing.
Prison is expensive. Which is ironic because of the people there probably have NO money. I’m actually just talking about the fees I have to pay to put money in his account. My nephew has never asked me for money so everything I have given him is my choice. My husband’s too because he supports my nephew too. I don’t expect my nephew to call me because he has his mom (my sister) & his fiance to call. Plus I never pick up my phone for an unknown number. Phone calls are expensive. They charge per minute so that can add up fast.
Yes I know I’m in a position to be able to afford these fees but it’s just weird and their system is just a little bit archaic. Oh well that’s just my thought for now.
Hello. Just want to give you an update on sales. On eBay my gross sales was $1800.00. I’ll be honest with you. I didn’t work as hard as I should on eBay or poshmark. I haven’t totaled my sales on poshmark yet so that number would probably go up I am guestimating ( I know that’s not a word lol) at $2200-$2400.00. Overall I’m still happy with that number. Minus fees and taxes I was still able to pay my bills. I think you can guess from my last post my spirit is literally under a cloudy rain.
Which mean my posts will be more personal rather than financial. I don’t know. Having this blog is just a hobby for me. I do enjoy sharing tidbits of my life ( bad and good). Sometimes I wish I put more effort in to this because after posting I feel a little better. Sometimes I even go back a few posts and look back what I wrote and realize I didn’t exactly waste time.
As for my nephew, I haven’t heard from him yet. I wrote him a letter a few days ago. I hope he gets it. Some days I feel awful just doing normal things. I know I shouldn’t but when I’m doing simple things like going to the park, it makes my heart break that he doesn’t even have that freedom. I’ll be honest with you, from time to time I feel like I want to talk to a therapist. I talk a lot about it to my husband but he definitely has a one sided view that may not be the view I should be venting to.
The past month has been an emotional rollercoaster to me. You see I mentioned before about an investigation in my family. It’s such a long story and the end result just brings tears to my eyes and question everything.
Here’s the gist of it. I have two sisters. They both have kids. One has a daughter, and the other sister has a son. I love both of them dearly. My sister withe the daughter filed a lawsuit at my nephew claiming he has been molesting and raping my niece for years. I’ll be honest with you I was shocked and understood my sister with the daughter’s situation so I just sat back and tried to support her the best that I can. Yet I have my sister with a son.
My sister with a son was confused and understood what is happening. I think in the beginning she believed my niece at first but as time went on, the stories not making any sense, and just the way everything was being handled she stood by her son. I talked to my nephew more so than my niece because I was under the impression asking her about the case would trigger her depressive episodes so no one asked her anything. Plus I rarely saw her because she lived in another state.
It’s not that I don’t believe something is wrong with my niece, but her stories and all the people involved don’t match up. In the end, because my nephew doesn’t have the money ( my sister with the niece is married to a well off ass) he took the plea. That literally broke my heart. I respect his decision because that’s what him and his fiance discussed. Which is why I just haven’t been in the best emotional state.
It’s not just because of my nephew, but the sadness & depression between my two sisters has taken it’s toll on me. Its hard to support both sides. my nephew has lost ALOT of family support. The weirdness has developed and this doesn’t include the loss of friends too. His social circle has become smaller. In the end though I support my nephew more so than my niece.
I think it has really upset the family members that don’t support him but how can I turn my back on him without finding out the truth? Either way, no one wins in this situation. Except the lawyers and the court.
Happy Easter readers! Just a quick update on mom life and my reseller life. I really shouldn’t call it mom life. More like parenthood life. My husband is very much involve in our son’s life. While I’m the one who spends most time with him, my son enjoys his father too.
Today I notice my son really trying to communicate with me more. It’s mostly gestures but it is something. You see he isn’t speaking up to speed so I’m trying my best to not meet his needs all the time. I spend so much time with him that it’s second nature for me to just do everything for him without him asking. This morning he gestured he wanted his favorite pajama pants instead of some shorts I put on him. Even though this involved longer time getting ready for the day, I was happy to do it.
It’s April 1st. For us eBay resellers this means the new seller update will take place. I really haven’t been paying too much attention other than I will be losing the 10% discount for being top rated seller. Now I think you have to be top rated seller plus for it. Not a big deal for me. I’m not willing to change my 30 days returns with buyer paying shipping back to sellers paying shipping back. Nope not worth it to me. It’s such a big debate among resellers ( on IG at least) yet I stayed out of it mostly. I personally believe eBay made the changes for their own benefit. It’s nothing personal. It’s just business. This just means resellers like myself who specialize in used clothing is considered small potatoes. I’m sure other resellers in niche categories feel the same too.
We must move on from that and focus on making money. Luckily the income from poshmark helps. It hasn’t eclipse the income I’m making on eBay but it’s nice to have that extra sales push.
On our “weekend” we had very boring days. Our weekends are usually on my husband’s days off and on weekdays. This weekend it was particularly boring. Well it was boring to most but to us, we call it a good weekend.
On day 1 we dropped my son to a drop in day care ( don’t need to schedule a day but just as long as there availability). During that time my husband and I went to the nearest coffee shop and discuss random things such as youtube stars over chai tea lattes and ice water. Then we just walked around window shopping boutiques. Then we pick up my son after a couple of hours and headed home for his nap. The rest of the day was spent watching a ridiculous amount of TV reruns.
On day 2 my husband didn’t feel like making breakfast so I suggest we hit up a breakfast buffet. So we ate at our favorite one and then did some grocery shopping. Of course went home in time to play with my son and put him down for his nap. The rest of the day was me spent listing and my husband playing on his phone and watching TV.
We watch a ridiculous amount of TV if you consider youtube, internet, and netflix time. You know what? It’s ok not to always live exciting lives or to not live exciting lives. If I can tell you nothing out of the ordinary happened then that’s ok. If you feel like your life is boring then you should appreciate it or at least try to change something. I know many people who just want to have “boring” days. No days of fighting, no days of trying get rid that feeling of FOMO (god I hate that acronym, fear of missing out).
Since our “weekend” is practically over I wish you all a good weekend and enjoy the simplest things in life.
With a blink of an eye 2018 is just around the corner. 2017 feels like any year for me except of course my son bringing us joy with his excitement of literally anything new. Having children doesn’t always improve people’s lives but for us, he truly brings us a different kind of happiness. Aside from my son, my marriage and my online selling journey, has made me want different things.
It’s weird to think people want to change when the New Year comes. Why doesn’t it happen during the year? Oh well I am one of those people who routinely reflect the upcoming new year and to be honest I just want to do MORE things I enjoy.
This year I left my part time job as a merchandiser. Plenty of reasons why I left it but my sole reason was to spend more time with my family. I already did before but when my husband started to have anxiety, it was a good decision to spend more time at home. The money I was bringing in was good, especially since I learned quickly and was efficient in “merchandising” that with the overage of hours I can claim, I was making 15+ an hour. This was part time work though so it was between 10-25 hours a week I was working. I was able to by focusing more on online selling.
There is so many online platforms to sell on that it is a learning curve to really succeed by your own personal definition. I currently sell on eBay and Poshmark as my main inventory is clothing. I have been doing this for years part time so to think it’s been bringing home income is wonderful. Unfortunately with me wanting to bring more money into our home would also mean things have been sidelined.
Melt & Pour Soap I made last year.
I thought this year I would be making soap and bath bombs. That hobby kind of ended when I decided more to focus on reselling online. Maybe in 2018 I should bring that hobby out again and learn more. I really want to make beautiful swirl soaps with fantastic fragrances.
As a family I feel we do spend enough time together. Growing up with a 2 income home has it’s plus and minuses. I felt as a child I didn’t get to spend enough time with my parents. So to be able to give time like that to my son makes me happy and wished my parents didn’t have to work so hard. Yet they had to so it’s not something I would take back since they had to feed 5 children.
Financially, at the point where we are at, I think we are doing ok. We haven’t really tapped into our mutual fund other than for a down payment on a car. in 2018 I think we are mostly going to focus on paying down my student loan. We might go on a family trip to FL though.
How was your 2017?
This year we aren’t sending Christmas cards out. We usually do but I just became so busy that the first week of December was already here. I normally buy custom ones from Shutterfly.com . I even had some cute pictures of my family with snapchat filters. It’s not a huge deal but I just liked sending them out when I can.
For December I notice things are a little hectic so I won’t be focusing on eBay so much. We usually have a family Christmas party (on my husband side), short family vacation, and just a wind done of things. My eBay business is usually slow ( also putting it on vacation), and my husband job is slow as well ( he will work overtime if possible).
So right now I may post more or less. I just want to take the time to really figure out what I want in 2018. Are you doing anything special for 2018?